Visiting Weber’s Cider Mill Farm for their Fall Harvest Festival and neighboring Peachberry Farm for apple picking had become somewhat of an annual tradition for our family. It’s one of the best apple picking options nearby. Last year Nora wasn’t old enough to walk. This year was a whole different story.

An enchanted forest. A petting farm. Pony rides. Ice cream trucks. Our first pumpkin patch of the season. I’m not sure how we haven’t been to Clark’s Elioak Farm before but we’re definitely adding it to our seasonal rituals.

I especially appreciate the safety precautions the farm is taking (timed entry and reduced capacity, face masks, and social distancing enforced, etc.) I find more and more as we start to safely explore the world around us how much the pandemic has impacted both Dakota and Nora socially. At the sight of even small groups of people Nora prefers to be carried, immediately tightening her legs around my waist, and Dakota without hesitation grabs and holds onto my hand.

It makes sense. More than one third of Nora’s life has been spent primarily at home. Aside from a few months in which Alex and I used to enjoy a weekly date night, she’s never spent a waking moment not by my side. Dakota has always been cautious by nature but she used to (sometimes timidly) jump in and play with other children at playgrounds, on playdates, etc. Lately she’s exhibited a new fear of me leaving her. Sometimes she worries if I simply go upstairs without her in our own home. Both girls clearly prefer empty playgrounds.

Dakota and Nora eventually warm up to new places and faces but there is still a clear attachment to mama that perhaps wouldn’t exist if it weren’t for the pandemic. A silver lining is the strong bond the two are forming with each other. Constant companions, chasing, giggling, and protecting each other.

Before COVID-19, Alex and I had planned on sending Dakota to a local preschool for a couple hours a day, twice a week. She’s a bright girl who is eager to learn, but above all we wanted to give her the social interaction it was abundantly clear she craved and needed. The pandemic has forced us into a new reality. We are lucky in several ways, including the flexibility of my job so that I can continue to stay home with both girls, work part time, and now also homeschool them both.

Hello, my name is Christine and I am a Type-A overachiever. There was no half-assing this one. Ergo a full-fledged 5-day-a-week preschool curriculum developed from what I like best about Montessori, Waldorf and just plain old regular preschool — all customized to meet the individual needs and interests of Dakota and Nora.

I’ve learned a lot along the way: Dakota has the patience and concentration to sit and learn for long periods of time — only as long as I am by her side (more for companionship than needing direction). Nora – on the other hand – checks out at only a few minutes into most activities, preferring to climb all over mama during lessons, tear up Dakota’s beloved crafts, dismember every single laminated flash card I make, and consume copious amounts of Elmer’s glue. Oh, and five days a week is often asking too much of myself so it’s okay to take more time off to simply explore the world around us without regimen.

There’s no one size fits all for all families. I’m not a trained educator. I wouldn’t even dare to claim to know what I’m doing. But I’ll share here what we’ve found works for us.